There’s nothing inherently unsexy about vanilla sex. That said, there are simple ways to turn up the heat.First things first: there’s nothing inherently unsexy about vanilla sex. Generally defined as more “traditional” than other forms of eroticism, like kink and BDSM, vanilla sex can be just as pleasurable, fun and exciting for folks who enjoy it.“Vanilla sex is sometimes thought of as ‘boring’ sex, but vanilla is a popular flavour for a reason: it’s delicious!” Nicolle Dirksen, sex and couples therapist and clinic owner, told HuffPost. If you’re delighting in vanilla play and feel content with your sex life overall, there’s no need to change it, she said. Still, spicing vanilla sex up can invite perks, including better communication.