Women on a beachI have a rule I follow religiously before going on holiday with anyone (friends, family, partner included) – before we leave, I tell them, we have to agree on a relaxation to activities ratio.Personally, I want to be supine 90% of the time. If their needs are too different to mine, I am ruthless; I refuse to be one of those couples or friend groups arguing on holiday, so I insist we take breaks apart. That sounds a bit extreme, but I can’t help but wonder if Redditor u/Kxrn420 might not have benefited from a similar strictness. Venting to the social media site, the 19-year-old wrote that she “Went on vacation with my bestie, came back as mortal enemies.” So, we spoke to licensed mental health counsellor Victoria Lichtenstein about why so many relationships fall apart abroad.