A parenting coach who specialises in supporting families of neurodivergent children has opened up about the mistake parents might be making when talking to their kids who have ADHD.In a video shared on TikTok, Dr Chelsey Hauge Zavaleta shared parents can often over-explain and over-negotiate, which means they are accidentally training their children to “tune” them out.Offering an example, she says: “Look, if one shoe is here and the other shoe is over here, you’re not going to be able to find your shoes and you’re going to be late for school. You need to put them away.”But this, she claims, is “not going to get your ADHD child to listen”.What to do insteadIn the same video, Dr Hauge Zavaleta said: “What doesn’t work is long rational explanations or even multi-step lists. Your over-explaining of where the shoes need to go and what’s going to happen if they don’t go there sounds like ‘wah wah wah’.”She offered another way to communicate the issue, saying: “Shoes” and then pausing, and tapping them. “Shoes, over there,” she continued in a sing-song voice, while pointing where the shoes needed to go.“You want to go for one word at a time and then pause. If they don’