After eight years together, she says she loves me and there is no one else. But she can’t tell me why she no longer wants to be intimate. I am afraid this will end our marriageMy wife has decided she is done with sex. She hasn’t given a particular reason. I asked if there may be a deeper resentment about me – but she said not. I asked if she perhaps had feelings for other men – but she said not. She is in the later stages of menopause – eight years ago, when we first met, it was a bigger part of her life. But last week she just said that although she loves me very much, and there are no issues, she doesn’t want to have sex or anything else. She wants me to be there for her as a celibate partner, indefinitely, leaving me, faithfully, in limbo. I love her, but I feel the lack of physical intimacy could break us up. No doubt your wife’s decision is devastating for you, and you may have to decide if this new scenario is possible for you, but it would probably be worth trying to glean more information to help you to understand “Why this? Why now?” Menopause can have a devastating effect on a woman’s libido, and there can be all kinds of other issues such